Over the past few years, you may have seen the topic of surrogacy popping up more frequently in the news. Some celebrity names might come to mind when you think of surrogacy - Kim Kardashian, Andy Cohen, and Anderson Cooper, to name a few. Here at RMA of Connecticut, we have been helping intended parents build families using gestational surrogacy for years, and we’re so happy to see it become a more relevant parenting pathway for all.
Over the past few years, fertility treatment has gained some much-needed visibility. As public figures and celebrities share their stories of IVF treatment, surrogacy, PCOS struggles, and more, we see that willingness to share mirrored in our own community. Not only do patients seem to be more willing to open up to friends, family, and social media about their fertility or family-building journeys, but they are sharing the physical, mental, and emotional toll that may accompany these reproductive challenges.
Like so many things in life, our expectations of what family building is going to look like may differ greatly from our reality. For our patient Angela, even though she knew that fertility treatment was going to be part of her story from the start, there were still some surprises along the way. We are so grateful to Angela for openly sharing her journey and for demonstrating the power of perseverance and believing in yourself. Read the full story in her own words below.
When journalist Amy Klein got married and started trying to get pregnant, it was 2011. She was 41, and she was met with a distinct lack of fertility support. While patients struggling with fertility today have the benefit of online communities on Facebook and Instagram, the best that Amy could find were “mommy boards” - chat forums where women would talk about fertility treatment secretly, using initials rather than names.
As little children, the holiday season is a time of wonder. Gifts, twinkling lights, and tons of holiday sweets and treats - who could ask for more? However, once we grow up, that childlike wonder is often replaced with financial woes, stress about sourcing the perfect present, and dealing with distant relatives asking far too many personal questions. Aunt Muriel, please stop asking when we're going to have kids!
For most of us, this year (2020) has been dominated by a running list of things that “just don’t feel like they used to.” From daily changes like wearing a mask in public, to bigger moments like forgoing large family gatherings and not blowing out birthday candles, it seems like many of our memories this year are shadows of their former selves. To add to the upside down nature of our lives right now, infertility can be an overwhelming journey in its own right.