When most people decide they're ready to become a parent, they typically envision bringing a biologically-related child into the world - a little "mini me" to carry on certain physical and personality traits. But what happens when that vision is turned upside down by fertility challenges and you consider using an egg donor to grow your family? In this story, one Illume Fertility patient shares her and her partner's donor conception experience with honesty, exploring the raw emotions that surfaced when they were forced to reimagine their dreams for the future.
You are sitting across the desk from your doctor trying to absorb the sobering news that, “Using donor eggs is your best option.” You have known for some time that you don’t make many eggs during an IVF cycle, and perhaps your cycle has been cancelled more than once for only making one or two eggs, but donor egg? Are there any other options? Where do you even find an egg donor?
This September, RMA of Connecticut is intrigued with transitions, particularly in how they reveal themselves in fertility treatment and decision making. Investigating aspects and questions like these, “I really don’t want to need a doctor to get pregnant but it’s not working at home." “I know it’s time to move on to a board certified Reproductive Endocrinologist, but I’m hoping that this is the month I get pregnant, so why make an appointment?” “No way am I ever sticking a needle in me.” “How do I move from one type of fertility treatment protocol to the next when I don’t feel ready for more treatment."